I am a divorced mother of two daughters in their early 20s and have a man I’d been involved with for years.

At first he didn’t see eye-to-eye with my first daughter, and they argued a lot. In fact, it was so bad that my daughter went back to live with her father.

But as soon as she got into the university, she started spending more time with us and gets on like a house on fire with my partner. He does everything for her and even takes her to the campus whenever she wishes.

Now he’s talking about buying her a car and even taking her on holidays with us. I never thought the day would come when I would be jealous of my own daughter, but their new found likeness for each other is giving me a lot of stress.

Even my ex admits it’s unhealthy. What do I do to bring sanity into my family?

Kemi, by e-mail.

Dear Kemi,

You obviously have talked this over with your partner, but now is the time to have a word with your daughter.

If your partner were to show the same affection to your other daughter, things might look healthier.

Men go through the mid-life crisis too and your man might be looking for a way to regain his lost youth. You have to be careful the way you go about things, so you won’t turn both of them against you.

Encourage your daughter to bring home her boyfriend and tell her if she needs being taken anywhere, you either do it or she takes commercial transport.

Affairs under one’s nose are very common and very dangerous.

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