Dear Bunmi, I feel like leaving without letting him know
I’m currently on the lookout for a new place, then move all my stuff out. By the time he comes home, I’ll be long gone and it will be as if I was never there, and I will never have to speak to him again. Am I being mean?
Dear Bunmi, could my daughter be randy at 7?
Recently, I keep catching my daughter masturbating. The problem is she’s only seven years old! So far, I’ve just made a joke of it, telling her she should do so only in her bedroom, as it is a private thing to do. Read Also: Dear Bunmi, she hurt me badly! Have I handled the issue […]
Dear Bunmi, either of them could be my baby’s father
I am seven months pregnant and I’m not sure who the father of my baby is. I don’t know if it is my current boyfriend or the one before him. To be honest, I am still in love with my ex-boyfriend and very much want the baby to be his.We split up about the time […]
Dear Bunmi, my husband gave me VD!
Whenever I see my husband, I feel like physically hurting him. You see, I currently have venereal disease and he is responsible. He must have picked it up from one of the string of cheap girls he’s always seen with! In the last four weeks we’d made love fairly regularly. It was during this period […]
Dear Bunmi, she hurt me badly!
I am in my early 60s and very youthful, fit and forward looking. I’ve lived in my own house for over 10 years. My wife died and the two children of the marriage are now happily married. About three years after my wife died, I met this divorcee who was an assistant principal in a […]
When marriage is not such a big deal
IFY has definitely come a long way from where women stood some 30 years ago on relationships. Five years after relocating from the USA with three degrees under her belt, she’s running a very successful IT company that she’s in her early 30s, shouldn’t she be thinking of settling down? “Why should I when I […]
How some men enjoy humiliating successful women!
By Bunmi Sofola Why do some successful women fall for cads? This was a poser I put to Jola, a very good friend and a thorough professional who continues to reap the benefits of her labour. Unfortunately, the same couldn’t be said for her husband. They are both chartered accountants but Jola was lucky because […]
Dear Bunmi, not all men fancy flashy women
I read a letter on your page from a woman who complained that all men think women are just ‘sex on legs’. Well, she’s wrong. Not all of us think that way. I’m a divorced man of 49 and I live on my own with my teenage son. I think that a woman’s personality matters […]
Dear Bunmi, I hate being the other woman
I’m a single mom and I’m 29. I’ve never been that lucky with men, as my partners have always been violent and cheats. Although I still care for the father of my child, we’ve been apart for close to two years. Now I’ve fallen in love with a friend who works in the same office […]
Dear Bunmi, he won’t have sex after surviving prostate cancer
Last year, my husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer. He’s now much better, but our sex life has deteriorated. I’m only 40 and I’ve tried to be understanding, but don’t know how much longer I can go without making love. Read Also: Dear Bunmi, is he controlling me through sex? I want things back to the […]
Dear Bunmi, he milks his family for money
I am not a rich woman. As a matter of fact, as a widow in her 60s, I find it difficult to make ends meet. I vowed, when my husband died 15 years ago, that my children wouldn’t lack anything and I am glad to say three of the four children are now independent. My […]
Dear Bunmi, fair-weather friend
When my friend comes to spend time with me, I pay for everything. Recently, I went to her place and she treated me shabbily. She barely cooked, and begrudged me a second piece of meat. One evening, she refused to let me have a bath because she claimed she bought water all the time. Read […]
Dear Bunmi, is he controlling me through sex?
I love my boyfriend but when he wants sex, he wants it right away. It can be when I’m about to leave for work, I’m getting ready to meet friends, or just in a hurry to get something done at home. Read Also: Dear Bunmi, will he ever propose after 19 years together? I used […]
Couldn’t stand his steward having all the fund!!
By Bunmi Sofola Bolaji is a cherished friend I’ve known for years and he loves a good gossip. Most of all, he’s learnt to laugh at himself from time to time no matter at what cost. It’s always a pleasure to listen to him on the few occasions he finds the time to phone. When […]
Dear Bunmi, will he ever propose after 19 years together?
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 20 years and we have two children whom he takes full responsibility for. We’ve discussed marriage but he says with the high rate of divorce and the experience he’s had living in a polygamous home, he doesn’t want the hassle of a divorce if we ever […]
Dear Bunmi, my ‘detective’ work paid off!
A few months ago, I found a business card with a girl’s name and phone number in my man’s wallet. It was someone in his office, and I suspected instantly what was going on. The next time he went away on his numerous business trips, I rang his usual hotel the day I knew he […]
