Dear Bunmi, I feel like leaving without letting him know
I’m currently on the lookout for a new place, then move all my stuff out. By the time he comes home, I’ll be long gone and it will be as if I was never there, and I will never have to speak to him again. Am I being mean?
Dear Bunmi, I want to conceive soon
I currently live with my boyfriend and we have been trying for a baby for close to a year now with no success. I’ve had fertility tests, and so has he – they’re all positive. I’m getting really depressed at not being able to conceive yet. I’ve noticed that every time we have sex, the […]
Handling the ‘In sickness and in health’ of your marriage vows
By Bunmi Sofola DID it ever occur to you that when you stood at the altar and promised to love your husband ‘in sickness and in health,’ that one day you’d be forced to confront the reality of those vows? You ought to. This is life. We’re all going to get old. Some of us […]
Coping with being a sex addict!
WHATEVER your view on sex is, the fact remains it’s now been stripped of its cloak and dagger mystery. Where men once bragged of the number of notches on their bed-posts, women now don’t see sex as a ‘chop and wipe mouth’ phenomenon. They see it as of right – they want it, if it’s […]
Philandering husband can’t take a dose of their medicine!
By Bunmi Sofola It is really amazing how an everyday occurrence suddenly snowballs into a nightmare. A chance meeting with a friend, and Kayode’s world came tumbling down. He’d rushed home in the middle of the day to pick up an important file he’d forgotten to take with him when he left for work in […]
Dear Bunmi, is this contraceptives method fullproof?
When my boyfriend and I have sex, he always withdraws at the last moment. But I’ve heard that I can still get pregnant this way. Read Also: Dear Bunmi, he won’t have sex after surviving prostate cancer We don’t use condoms and I’ve worried that I might be expecting because of what we’ve been doing. […]
Dear Bunmi, could my daughter be randy at 7?
Recently, I keep catching my daughter masturbating. The problem is she’s only seven years old! So far, I’ve just made a joke of it, telling her she should do so only in her bedroom, as it is a private thing to do. Read Also: Dear Bunmi, she hurt me badly! Have I handled the issue […]
Dear Bunmi, either of them could be my baby’s father
I am seven months pregnant and I’m not sure who the father of my baby is. I don’t know if it is my current boyfriend or the one before him. To be honest, I am still in love with my ex-boyfriend and very much want the baby to be his.We split up about the time […]
Dear Bunmi, my husband gave me VD!
Whenever I see my husband, I feel like physically hurting him. You see, I currently have venereal disease and he is responsible. He must have picked it up from one of the string of cheap girls he’s always seen with! In the last four weeks we’d made love fairly regularly. It was during this period […]
Dear Bunmi, she hurt me badly!
I am in my early 60s and very youthful, fit and forward looking. I’ve lived in my own house for over 10 years. My wife died and the two children of the marriage are now happily married. About three years after my wife died, I met this divorcee who was an assistant principal in a […]
When marriage is not such a big deal
IFY has definitely come a long way from where women stood some 30 years ago on relationships. Five years after relocating from the USA with three degrees under her belt, she’s running a very successful IT company that she’s in her early 30s, shouldn’t she be thinking of settling down? “Why should I when I […]
